Since I experienced my first one ever and I have no idea how to deal with it. Any of you guys had similiar experiences? If so, how did you put up with losing someone precious to you?
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Breakups
Ruby- Admin
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Re: Breakups
Depending on how much the relationship grew, it can either be extremely easy to deal with or mind-numbingly difficult. I honestly haven't found a perfected answer myself, since just saying "there's other fish in the sea" may not be enough to help cope with it. I've personally just been trying to stick close with friends, and avoiding the thought of the ordeal as much as possible. Even then, that's not easing the pain entirely, but it's better than the first few days of suffering from it.
HiveNet- Experienced Member
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Re: Breakups
Yeah, I've had a really bad break-up on my part. And I'm not going to lie in that it took 14 and bit months to consider myself moved on. 14 and a bit months which kinda ruined me as person, and sent into some habits that I'm exactly proud of. Also somehow it gave me a partially photographic memory, which I'm still confused about. So I'm not the best example to follow by, but I can still give some advice.
Depending on how close you guys were, that'll be the biggest thing affecting how hard it is. If you can, avoid the other person. Having to be reminded of it is the worst thing that can happen right now. Distance yourself, and occupy your time with other things if you can. Hang out with friends, stuff like that. It helps, but otherwise just as much as I hate to say it after all the times I thought it was pointless, all you can do is give it time. It will eventually help.
Depending on how close you guys were, that'll be the biggest thing affecting how hard it is. If you can, avoid the other person. Having to be reminded of it is the worst thing that can happen right now. Distance yourself, and occupy your time with other things if you can. Hang out with friends, stuff like that. It helps, but otherwise just as much as I hate to say it after all the times I thought it was pointless, all you can do is give it time. It will eventually help.
Kyousuke Kousaka- Elite Member
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Re: Breakups
HiveNet wrote:Yeah, I've had a really bad break-up on my part. And I'm not going to lie in that it took 14 and bit months to consider myself moved on. 14 and a bit months which kinda ruined me as person, and sent into some habits that I'm exactly proud of. Also somehow it gave me a partially photographic memory, which I'm still confused about. So I'm not the best example to follow by, but I can still give some advice.
Depending on how close you guys were, that'll be the biggest thing affecting how hard it is. If you can, avoid the other person. Having to be reminded of it is the worst thing that can happen right now. Distance yourself, and occupy your time with other things if you can. Hang out with friends, stuff like that. It helps, but otherwise just as much as I hate to say it after all the times I thought it was pointless, all you can do is give it time. It will eventually help.
This.
If something didn't end well, then distance yourself as best you can. Don't let anything keep you tied down, because it's going to drag you further and further into a continuous hell.
That's what happened to me, and I can't imagine anyone else being like that.
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